I am being scratched, punched, bit. I’ve had my neck grabbed, I feel like I’m choking, or I have been kicked

I have things thrown at me or close to me

I get pushed and pulled around, backed into a corner

I’ve been threatened with a gun, knife, box cutter, bat, mace, or other weapon, household object

My closet, home, possessions, and important documents have been destroyed or ransacked

I’m frightened from this person's reckless driving; it feels like it's on purpose to scare me

I don’t have the freedom to leave the house or go anywhere, and when I do get out, I get constant phone calls and texts

This person touches me in a way that I’m uncomfortable and when I voice my displeasure they don’t stop.

I am forced to perform or made to feel guilty if I don’t do sexual acts that I’m not comfortable with.

I feel concerned that by this person's actions I am at risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease

This person insults me with terrible sexual words, and is verbally demeaning

When we are in public, I am embarrassed by this persons unwanted sexual advances

I’ve been forced to have sex with others, or accused of having sex with others

I’ve been sexually assaulted or raped

I feel constantly confused and chaos seems to surround my life when I’m with this person 

I never know who will walk through the door.  Will be Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde?  I’m constantly walking on eggshells because this person behaves erratically and unpredictably  

Why is it always my fault and no matter what we argue about I’m always wrong and they are always right.   

I’m know it's not my fault, but I somehow always take the blame and convince myself it was me in the wrong 

I feel controlled.  This person uses my fears, values, empathy, or other hot buttons against me 

I get embarrassed around others because this person is always making fun of me or my family, I just laugh but inside it really hurts. 

I feel like this person is always lying to me, their stories don’t line up or make sense 

I’m afraid to share my opinion because they don’t listen or just write them off as uninformed or invalid 

I’m accused of blowing things out of proportion, being untrusting, or exaggerating the effect their behavior has on me 

This person is constantly telling me how I feel, my true emotions are disregarded. 

Visits with my family and friends have become less and less; when they do happen, they are difficult or uncomfortable because of my partners behavior 

I can never give this person enough attention, and feel guilty when I pay attention to myself or others 

This person hasn’t asked me about my day in months, I don’t feel appreciated and there is no affection that I receive.  I feel like they don’t care what I do as long as it doesn’t affect them. 

I can’t hang a picture, load the dishwasher correctly, decorate, cook right.  I’m always criticized because it's never good enough. 

I am in constant confusion about this persons demands, they are always changing 

I feel insignificant, powerless or worthless 

This person threatens to commit suicide to make me feel sorry for them 

My claims of abuse are laughed at and minimized or denied. 

I feel like I’m always being “stood-up”, this person breaks dates, shows up hours late or not at all 

My partner uses drugs or alcohol to excuse their behavior and I know that is not right 

I am being criticized by my physical appearance and mental apptitude 

My work meetings, travel, school, parties have been disrupted by this person  

I get one email after another with conflicting messages of hate and love 

I’m not a partner in our finances, this person controls our finances and excludes me from big purchases